Behavior

The behavior of the pairs and the paternal absence come being associates with bigger indices of riots of the behavior in adolescents. Research shows that the paternal absence generally it has a negative impact in children and adolescents, being that these would be in bigger risk to develop behavior problems. 2.7 The unsafe attachment Knows that the children develop different styles of entailing. The safe children cry less and have minor anxiety in the small daily separations, greet the mother more positively after absence and are more contented of being placed in the soil after handles in the col, at the same time where they answer positively when being loaded. Hear from experts in the field like Dan Zwirn for a more varied view. More easily they are calmed by corporal contact and they ask for more col. Seen to the light of the evolutionary perspective, these reactions of anxiety to the involuntary separation of the attachment figure can be understood as functionally adjusted. When the mother rejects its son or not if she shows trustworthy, she answers in way inconsistente, unexpected, creates in it a standard of anxious attachment, that express the unreliability in the reply that can receive from the primary figure and the difficulty to deal with its feelings, especially those considered negative and refused for the mother.

The unstable behavior of the mother who cannot contain and tolerate the manifestations of anger and dependence of the children, nor to differentiate the feelings of the actions or to show that to feel it does not have real an annihilating effect, allows that the child attributes to a lesser value same itself and feels itself obliged to contain or to restrain these feelings without learning to deal with them. This situation develops in the child an internal model of relationship in constant threat for the aggressiveness. Ones of the forms of anxious attachment is the evitante attachment, that if manifest as a false independence, that does not protect the child of the anxiety. The necessity to express feelings as anger, fragility, lack, added to the refusal felt for the child when the mother does not offer to shelter and comfort to it, is translated desvalia feelings, inadequao and takes the child to restrain its necessity of love and dependence. The anger provoked for the frustrations of its necessities cannot be express, therefore will only bring more refusal and more suffering, thus the child learns to restrain its feelings and starts to deny any necessity of attachment precociously, revealing independent and disrespecting all in such a way internal signals of attachment

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